After two unfortunate marriages, I've been single for 25 years. My money is under control. I am not in debt other than a mortgage. I'm an elder Boomer, so I've had some historical edges.
I love how you threaded so many texts through this piece — ones you disagree with, ones you agree with, others that provide context. That’s my favorite kind of read!
Even the last take ended with a “happily ever after” where the point is she ended up with a good husband.
I’m 34 and single. I don’t plan on ever marrying. I’m happy and free. Why would I want a man in my house who is statistically most likely to hurt me from the most mundane taking up space and causing messes to emotional damage health and physical damage. The risks are far greater than any reward could possibly be. Even women in relationships they perceive as equal are full of concessions big and small. Is any wife still the main character of her own life?
Society not only expects but needs women to make these concessions to serve as the shock absorbers of society. The “lonely male epidemic” is a problem for society because these men are taking out their ugliness on the world instead of behind closed doors. They are failing and flailing without our self sacrificing support. What if our goals for our lives didn’t include a husband? Imagine the power. So many women would be able to live to their full potential and provide those gifts to the world. That’s another form of motherhood that’s just as valid as raising children. Raising our ideas and cultivating beautiful creations in the world. Plus, you can have and raise a child with any community sans husband and all the added labor and risk that entails. The nuclear family was designed to and will always exploit women’s time, labor, and ultimately lives. We don’t have to choose that goal.
In future articles I will link in some studies from life-long single women later on. It's harder to find narratives of life-long singles, there is incentive I suppose to frame them as happily ever after. I have no plans of marrying either! I don't even want to cohabitate!
After two unfortunate marriages, I've been single for 25 years. My money is under control. I am not in debt other than a mortgage. I'm an elder Boomer, so I've had some historical edges.
I love how you threaded so many texts through this piece — ones you disagree with, ones you agree with, others that provide context. That’s my favorite kind of read!
I married at 38, divorced at 48, and found that I am a LOT happier being single than I was having to negotiate every decision with a husband.
Even the last take ended with a “happily ever after” where the point is she ended up with a good husband.
I’m 34 and single. I don’t plan on ever marrying. I’m happy and free. Why would I want a man in my house who is statistically most likely to hurt me from the most mundane taking up space and causing messes to emotional damage health and physical damage. The risks are far greater than any reward could possibly be. Even women in relationships they perceive as equal are full of concessions big and small. Is any wife still the main character of her own life?
Society not only expects but needs women to make these concessions to serve as the shock absorbers of society. The “lonely male epidemic” is a problem for society because these men are taking out their ugliness on the world instead of behind closed doors. They are failing and flailing without our self sacrificing support. What if our goals for our lives didn’t include a husband? Imagine the power. So many women would be able to live to their full potential and provide those gifts to the world. That’s another form of motherhood that’s just as valid as raising children. Raising our ideas and cultivating beautiful creations in the world. Plus, you can have and raise a child with any community sans husband and all the added labor and risk that entails. The nuclear family was designed to and will always exploit women’s time, labor, and ultimately lives. We don’t have to choose that goal.
In future articles I will link in some studies from life-long single women later on. It's harder to find narratives of life-long singles, there is incentive I suppose to frame them as happily ever after. I have no plans of marrying either! I don't even want to cohabitate!